Thoughts for the Month

April 2018

Adhering to my integrity nullifies my impulse to try to be the bigger person or take the high road. In fact, it nullifies that concept altogether. Furthermore, it allows me the security of knowing that I can count on myself at all times to do the honest thing. Doing the honest thing is the right thing for me, always.

In our full, authentic self-expression, when something doesn’t work for us, we can clearly, lovingly, and simply say so without feeling that we need to explain ourselves, offer up anything, or feel guilty. You’re enough to say no. Please remember, a no from your heart is a yes to your life.


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March 2018

We will absolutely face trying times over the course of our lifetime. We experience legal issues, addictions, divorce, illness, loss, and so much more. I truly believe that these situations are created for us to grow, heal, expand, develop, and evolve. These experiences allow us to rise – to be all of who we are meant to be. Trust… and trust the process. When I am faced with a tough situation, I find it highly beneficial to ask myself: What are my expectations in this situation? Are they creating stress or peace? How is this benefitting me right now? What am I learning? What is the lesson for me in this? What is honest and correct for me? What is the opportunity here?

I have always believed (at my core) that everything is happening for my greatest good. In my toughest moments, I do my best to draw from this faith. I have also learned that I can enjoy my life regardless of the situation that lies before me and that I never have to be owned by the temporary circumstances that I am experiencing. I do my best to feel my way through, so that I emerge with deeply broadened perspective, immense gratitude, more of myself, and mindfulness that will enhance the rest of my life.


February 2018

This is a tall order. See if you can accept every single thing in your life, as it is, right now, in this moment. This would include welcoming every thought, every feeling, every situation, every circumstance, all of yourself, all about others, where you currently are in your life, and so much more. You see, by accepting and welcoming all as it is right now, you allow for the possibility of fulfillment without condition.

I wholeheartedly believe in the power of love. I find it to be healing, unifying, gratifying, and inclusive. I experience it as accepting, curious, compassionate, and wondrous. It’s taken me many years to realize that I’m deserving of my own love – of my own loving; of my own mercy; and of my own kindness. My graciousness is imperative to my health, happiness, and well-being. I am beyond grateful for the road that I have traveled to be brought to this enlightened understanding. Being loving in the world begins with me being loving with myself.


January 2018

Listening is one of the greatest ways that we can serve not only ourselves, but also one another. The degree to which we can listen and really hear what another human being is saying will be reflected directly in our friendships, partnerships, and relationships. When people have been truly listened to and not judged or reprimanded, they leave the encounter knowing that what they expressed was received, valued, and acknowledged. This immensely shifts the dynamic of the relationship by creating more safety and trust. In the absence of barriers and defenses, we find more warmth, affection, and understanding in our relationships, as well. With a stronger foundation of trust, more intimacy, playfulness, and connection can be explored.

Our only role is to walk beside people in support instead of doing someone’s life for them or telling them how. As a coach, I guide people into discovering their own direction rather than telling them what they should or shouldn’t do. Instead of unintentionally sending the message to clients that they need me, I send them the message that they are perfectly capable of piloting their lives on their own. They’re now liberated to meet their own needs and depend upon themselves. Standing tall in their competence, they see how self-reliant they are. This allots them the euphoria of rising and expanding beyond their wildest imagination. In guiding, we get to relish witnessing others discover the luminosity within themselves. We greatly empower other people by allowing them ownership of their own journey.

December 2017

Truth be told, we really only know what works for ourselves. It would be arrogant of me to think that I know what’s best for someone else. How could I? I might think that I know, and I might act like I know, but I’ve never traveled their path. I’ve never walked in their shoes. I’m not them in that moment needing to get that particular lesson from that particular situation. I can share with them about things that have carried me through my life’s trials, but I can’t honestly know what’s best for them or what they need to do for themselves. For this reason, I now do my best to mind my own business.

Many of us stand above people, thinking that we know what’s best for them. Do we really? What if we just stepped down from our pedestal and stood beside people? How could this change the dynamic of our relationships – especially with our spouses and the people we love the most? Standing beside people, we’re no longer hindering them from realizing their own greatness and capabilities. They’re free to be…, and they’re free to rise. One of my favorite things about my husband is that he consistently stands beside me – even when I make it challenging for him to do so – loving, supporting, and championing me to the best of his ability.


November 2017

Take a moment to get still and center yourself. For your benefit and well-being, begin to recognize (and breathe in) all of the blessings for which you’re grateful right now.

It might be your health or shared moments with the special people in your life. Maybe you’re grateful for your connection to your higher power, for your sobriety, for the ability to exercise, for your state of contentment, for your mental clarity, for the mentors in your life, that it was only a fender bender, or for having a free moment to relax and do something for yourself. You might find yourself appreciative of something as simple as your car starting, having your basic needs met, the wonder of nature, a kind message from someone who appreciates you, or your pets playing together. Or it could be a gift as crucial as having the medicine for your ailment that evokes gratitude within you.

As you look within, you’ll see that there’s always something for which to be grateful. Today, I am grateful for my loving, thoughtful, beautiful husband; for the extraordinary clients that I get the privilege and the blessing of working with; for my amazing friends; and for my fun, nutty, unwavering, phenomenal family that live so deep in my heart. I love you all… thank you.


October 2017

Instead of being religious or spiritual, I choose to be authentic.  It aids in my personal development, allowing me to be open, accountable, and as honest as I can be – especially to my voice and with my emotions.

As long as you don’t judge yourself, and you’re okay with others judging you, you’re good. You’re free.  You’re the one who has to be clean with your choices, behavior, actions, and exchanges – not others.  However, if someone does say something about you that creates some sort of a defensive, reactive stir inside of you, then that is something for you to look at – something you can begin to examine, understand, accept, love, and own so that you can be free once more.


September 2017

Staying true to our divine, authentic selves raises us, frees us, and liberates us beyond measure. It allows us to thrive as open-minded, open-hearted, curious beings. I find this to be glorious and revolutionary. In addition, I’m certain that being connected to this part of ourselves creates more unity, understanding, and oneness among us.

I find it grounding and centering to begin my day in silent prayer. Before my feet hit the floor, I get still in my bed, and I put my full attention on the inflow and the outflow of my breath. I breathe in God and breathe out fear. I breathe in love and breathe out judgment. I breathe in happiness, and I breathe out worry. I breathe in perfect health, and I breathe out dis-ease. I breathe in trust, and I breathe out doubt. It’s a beautiful way to commence my day.


August 2017

If you want to rewrite the chemistry of your body, you must first open your mind and begin to examine and alter the perceptions that you have about your body.

Sometimes loving ourselves can be too tall of an order. For this reason, let’s begin by simply learning how to like ourselves. In this moment, how can you be more kind, patient, and understanding with yourself? You deserve your own mercy.


July 2017

Having moments of exemplifying unfavorable behavior doesn’t mean that you must define yourself by it. Such behavior does not discount or minimize how brilliant, amazing, extraordinary, and luminous you truly are. You are a vessel of divine light.

When I violate my expectations of who I think I should be and who I think I should have been, I can create feelings of shame and guilt – very uncomfortable feelings of shame and guilt. What if we changed the game and gave ourselves permission to just be us? May you continue to discover and explore what this means to you.


June 2017

Because many of us have never learned to communicate effectively, we communicate through anger. This never works, as we’re violating the safety, intimacy, and trust in the relationship. When you’re not feeling heard or getting what you want, speaking louder and saying it again and again in repetitious reprimand does not ensure that your message gets received. By being able to identify and understand what you’re feeling and what’s happening inside of you, you can openly express and share that and bring someone in. By doing so, you’re communicating with someone rather than at someone, which has the capability to alter the dynamic of your relationship.

When in doubt, love. If still in doubt, love some more.


May 2017

If we believe that there is something wrong with us, we believe that others see it, too. We assume that others are thinking the same things about us that we’re thinking about ourselves. So when we judge ourselves, we think that other people are judging us for the same reason. It’s all our projection. I’m certain that most people’s focus lies elsewhere. This is why self-acceptance and self-approval are vital.

Own it. Own your feelings. Own your thoughts. Own your behavior. Own it all. Bring it out of obscurity and into the light. Embody the liberation, ascension, lightness, power, and foundation that accompanies ownership.


April 2017

It is important to hold fast to the knowledge that all of our feelings were created to bring us back home to ourselves. They are not intended to punish or torment us, but rather to assist and direct us. Feelings point us in the direction in which our souls are inspired to move. They are always happening for our greater good and for our expansion and evolution.

All of my feelings have been my university and have served as the tarmac for my ascension. As I have surrendered into embracing them, they have always brought me to higher ground.


March 2017

Another’s compliance (or noncompliance) is simply a reflection of whether he or she can honor our request, period. Neither decision has anything to do with us. They can either do it, or they can’t. There is no hidden meaning. We’re the ones who assign meaning when someone does or doesn’t do what we wanted them to do. Wouldn’t you prefer that we all stay true to ourselves, as challenging as that might be at times?

Pay attention to the significance that you attach to what others do or don’t do for you. What if you are not correct? When we take others’ actions personally, it’s because we think we need something from them in that moment. We often want them to validate or invalidate something we believe to be true about ourselves. When there is no longer meaning associated with the granting or denying of requests, our relationships become so much simpler, safer, and more intimate. It’s amazing what transpires.


February 2017

For some of us, it might be necessary now to limit our previously gratuitous generosity and become authentically generous with ourselves by implementing boundaries. This means having to say no, risk being unpopular, and risk others being disappointed. I know that that might be challenging for many of you. However, the honor and dignity that accompanies our truthfulness is priceless.

Nothing feels as good as honesty. It is imperative that I be as clean as I can in every area of my life. Being honest and clean keeps me a trustworthy person with myself.


January 2017

What’s more important and beneficial to your development, well-being, sanity, and evolution? Comparing yourself to your favorite celebrity, icon, or someone you’ve idolized? Or taking the time to venture inside and get to know, understand, revere, and celebrate you?

What if there was no more “getting it right”, ever? What if you were just allowed to be and create within that limitlessness? Self-judgment would be nullified. Certain behaviors would be eradicated. Freedom would be had. What if your way was the perfect way – not the right or wrong way – and that was always good enough?